What We've Been Up To

First camping trip.

First time touching water in a lake or stream.

First baseball game.

First BYU football game

First time trying solids.

Priest Lake trip with Grandma and Grandpa Hanson.

Sleeping in silly positions.

Cutie pie before getting a hair cut.

First Halloween!

Abe 7 Months

Moves around like a crazy person -- just starting to get the actual crawl down.
Has eaten squash, beans, and carrots.
Loves to stick his tongue out.
Usually sleeps through the night, or is up just once.
Takes 2 naps.
Is so smiley and giggly.
Is ticklish on his ribs.

We sure love him!

Abe at 5 Months

+ Rolls around in all directions.
+ Somehow can move and scoot around in all directions, too. At this rate he'll be crawling soon!
+ His 2 bottom teeth have popped through, and it looks like his 2 top teeth will be making an appearance in the next month!
+ Has the cutest laugh and giggle, but still makes you work for it - he's so serious around strangers, too.
+ Still has gorgeous blue eyes
+ Sleeps 8-12 hours a night. Usually goes down around 9:30 and will either sleep through until 7 or 8, or will wake up at 5 or 6, eat, and then sleep until 8 or 9. Takes one long (2-4 hours) nap around mid-day.
+ Talks up a storm!
+ We'll probably be starting him on some "solids" in the next week or two - rice cereal and mashed up fruits/veggies. Pretty excited to see how that turns out.
+ Can sleep without being swaddled (just started this yesterday), and sleeps on his tummy now, too.

We love our Abey boy!

Abe at 4 Months

Height: 24.5 inches (50th percentile)

Weight: 12 pounds, 7 ounces (20th percentile)

Head Circumference: (75th percentile)

Abe is turning out to be tall and skinny, like his daddy :)

He is our little angel baby, seriously.
He sleeps from 9:30/10 pm to about 8/9 am.
On the nights he does get up, it's only once and it's around 3/4 am.
He usually only cries when he's hungry or tired (or in pain - those blasted shots!) - and momma has his cries figured out :)

Nicknames include: bubs, bubba, little love, little lovey, fuzzball, Abey, Abey-baby, Abesy, little man, and our baby genius.

He usually takes 3-4 30-60 minutes naps a day and one 2-4 hour nap as well.
He's just started to roll over from front to back and back to front, but only a couple of times a day.
He loves to be laid down on the floor and will kick and scoot and half-roll all around.
He takes a binky when falling asleep.
He has the best smiles in the world, and the cutest giggles and laughs, although he makes us work pretty hard for those.
He can be a chatter box when he wants to!
He's starting to get the grabbing thing down and can hold on to items for a while (which means he is learning to grab my hair...) :)
He loves when we hold him up to stand.

Dr. Weeda gave him the ok to start solids whenever we feel ready. I think he'll be ready closer to 6 months. He's such a little guy, still!

He brings so much joy into our lives and we just think he is the best.

Abe's Nursery

I finally got around to taking some pictures of Abe's nursery today! 

It was pretty overcast, so the pictures are a little gloomy, and there are a few more things we'd like to add to the walls and such, but it's pretty much done!

The view from the door.

2 Months

(On May 26th - and I keep forgetting to take a picture!!)

Weight: 8 pounds, 1 ounce (5th percentile)

Height: 21.5 inches (25th percentile)

Head Circumference: 38.5 centimeters (45th percentile)

He's a just a little guy, but we love him!

He is doing really well. He's obviously a little on the small side. Dr. Weeda isn't too concerned, but we're headed back in one month to do a weight check, just to make sure he is still gaining well.

At 2 months Abe:

+ is starting to smile. just barely though. we can't wait until he is doing it more consistently!

+ is also starting to coo and make little talking noises. it's the cutest.

+ goes to bed around 11 pm, wakes up to eat between 2-3, and then wakes up again around 7. usually. that's a very loose schedule. but whatever the times end up being - he still only wakes up one time a month.

+ takes a bottle like a champ.

+ has started to like the pacifier. 

2 months old - where does the time go??

I always thought it was so cliche when parents said that the time flies by.

And then I became a parent, and I am pretty sure that the last two months were actually like 2 weeks. The days can feel long sometimes, but the weeks fly by. 

Life These Days

My life for the past 7 weeks has been full of diapers, spit-up, and holding a baby. And I'm not complaining. But I thought I'd give you an update of things that have been happening around here since Abe was born.

+ The first week home was amazing. It was just Kyle and I (and I've already mentioned how helpful Kyle was). We were able to spend time together, just the three of us. We love our little family so much.

+ My mom and sister were able to come out a week or so after Abe was born. They weren't going to be able to come out if he had been born around his due date (my sister would have had school) but since he was early they could come out during her spring break! It was nice to spend time together, and we went on a couple of drives and walks.

+ A week after they left, Holly and Evan came out and stayed with us. They were also so helpful, and we went on a few drives with them as well.

+ Kyle has officially started his new position and work schedule. He is really enjoying it, although it makes for some long days. He has Mondays off, works 8-8 on Tuesdays, works about 8-7 on Wednesdays and Thursdays, and 8-5 on Fridays.

+ Our first Sunday back to church was Easter, and we've made it every Sunday since! Back to teaching our hilarious 5 and 6 year olds.

+ Kyle got me a beautiful bouquet of roses for our anniversary, and we went out to dinner at Texas Roadhouse and then on a drive. Abe slept the whole time :)

+ For Mother's Day, Kyle and Abe got me some new knives, a hanging flower to put on our front porch, and paint for Kyle to paint the rocking chair! (He started yesterday.)

+ We've been enjoying getting into a more predictable routine and schedule around here. And we've been working on finishing up Abe's nursery. Can't wait to share it when we're finished!

1 Month Old

(On April 26th.)

Usually sleeps in one 4 hour stretch and another 3 hour stretch at night with a feeding in between.

Usually takes a 2-3 hour nap in the afternoon.

East all the time when he's awake, it seems.

Hasn't taken to his pacifier - if he wants to suck, he wants food.

Sleeps swaddled.

Although we're not sure on the weight gain since he didn't have a doctors appointment this month, we can definitely tell he is growing!! He is not my little 6 pound baby anymore.

A Cesarean Birth

While I'm not sad or embarrassed or feel bad that I had a cesarean section, a little part of me feels like I missed out. I didn't get to labor at home, I didn't get to feel amazed at what my body is capable of as I progressed from a 1, to a 3, to a 7, to a 10. I didn't get to push my babe out and watch him exit my body by my own sheer power, and I didn't get to feel the relief and pure emotion as he was placed on my chest.

Instead my lovely babe entered the world in a sterile, cold, operating room, with the help of a surgeon.
I wasn't able to hold him right away or see that slimy naked body. I didn't have the moment where I saw him and held him to my chest, freshly born.

But do I love him less? No.

Do I regret having a cesarean? No.

Having a vaginal delivery and normal labor experience could have ended badly for Abe and me. And while it was always "the plan", sometimes plans change.
And indeed, I am grateful for my c section, as it got my dear baby here safely.

I watch or see others birth photos and videos, and yes, I start to feel emotional that I didn't have a similar experience. But then I remind myself that my babe is here.

And really, isn't that all that matters in the long run?

Natural or Medicated.

Vaginal or Cesarean.

Birth is a miracle, and the tiny babe that comes after is a gift.

(and a part of me is grateful that I didn't have to experience the pains of labor and delivery, though I still want to experience that, and will try for a VBAC.  but now, that scares me, too. next time I am pregnant, preparing to give birth, I won't really know what to expect, even though I will be a second time mom. that scares me a little. and I almost feel like my recovery from my c section would be easier than a recovery from a vaginal delivery. but of course, it will all work out, more painful or not. so we'll wait and see.)

2 Week Stats

(2 weeks old, on April 9th)

Height: 19.25 inches (50th percentile)

Weight: 6 lbs, 11 ounces (25th percentile)

Head Circumference: 35.5 cm (50th percentile)

At his two week appointment Abe was up 10 ounces from his birth weight, and 1 whole pound from when we left the hospital. Good job, buddy! 

We sure love this little, growing guy.

What's In A Name?

I've always been one to have a list of baby names. I probably started this habit when I was about 12. Since then, my names have changed quite a bit (McKinley and Oakley used to top the list), but it's still something I've done. Since Kyle and I have gotten married I've brought up baby names numerous times, so by the time this little babe was conceived we had a small list of names we both liked.

I mentioned before that Kyle and I were both fairly certain it was a girl. We had our girl name picked out and ready to go. Then, we found out it was a boy, and had to "re-evaluate" our boys name, as it were, to make sure we loved it as much as we had loved our girl name.

While pregnant, we were pretty sure this was the name that we would end up going with, but had a few others in mind. We would tell people who asked that this is the name we would be going with, but decided that we would wait until we actually saw him to make sure. (However we did call him Abe quite a few times while pregnant. But mostly we just called him "Baby".) (Other names we considered were Blake, Noah, and Gabriel.)

As you now know, we named our babe

Harold Abraham Hanson

Yes, it's kind of a mouthful. But we like it.
And now, let me tell you about the names.

Harold is a family name on the Hanson side. Harold is Kyle's dad's, grandpa's, and great-grandpa's first name, although only the first Harold went by it. The other two go (or went) by their middle name. Even before Kyle and I were dating, he had told me of his desire to name his first son Harold after the Harolds in his family. This has always been the plan. And I thought it was a great one. My father-in-law and Kyle's grandpas were all great men, and I love that we named our son after them.

Abraham is a name I hadn't really considered until a few years ago, but then it really grew on me, particularly the nickname Abe. Kyle and I also really like Abraham Lincoln (ask Kyle how many books he's read about him sometime...) and so we thought it was a good fit. And, if I might say so, Abe Hanson sounds darn cute.

Kyle made a funny comment about our name while I was still pregnant, something about how much pressure our little one might be under since they are being named after 4 great men (5, if you also count the prophet Abraham). We kind of laughed at that.


So while it's kind of a long name, and he's going by his middle name, it just fits.
And we love it.

Abe's Birth Announcement

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Baby Abe - A Birth Story

(Disclaimer: This is the post where I talk about my labor and delivery experience, and it may or may not include what some people would think TMI. So, read at your own risk.)

Wednesday, March 26, 2014

(37 weeks and 1 day)

4:00 am -
I woke up to go to the bathroom, and then couldn't fall back to sleep.

5:00 am (maybe a little before) -
I felt 3 little pops in my lower regions. It felt similar to my back popping, except I could tell it hadn't been my back. Not knowing what it was I chalked it up to the fact that I was pregnant, and my pregnant body was just doing another strange things. I remember thinking, wouldn't it be funny if that's how it feels when my water breaks?

Then, within 5 minutes or so, I felt liquid coming out between my legs. At first I figured it was some particularly liquidy discharge, or maybe even some urine. 

Then it kept coming.

I knew that if it was my water if I stood up there would probably be a gush.

So I got out of bed and stood up and definitely felt more liquid coming out. By the time I made it around the bed and into the bathroom my underwear was soaked and I was leaving puddles on the floor. 

After sitting on the toilet for a minute, trying to convince myself that this was really happening, I poked my head out of the bathroom door (careful to keep my leaking self over the linoleum floor) and called Kyle's name, waking him up.

5:15 am -
I called the labor and delivery unit at the hospital, and told them the situation. They took down my name, and told me to come into the hospital.

We spent the next several minutes getting dressed, and packing some things into the hospital bag. Luckily I had most of the things packed already, we just needed to add some toiletries.
(PS, silly me thought I could make the 10-15 minute drive to the hospital just wearing a pad. Not so. I should have taken a towel or two. My underwear and pants were soaked by the time I got to L&D.)

6:00 am -
Made it to the hospital and got admitted, then wheeled up to the L&D unit.

Our L&D nurse was Shannon, who we really liked. She was kind of funny and sarcastic, but obviously knew what she was doing and she took great care of me.

She got a sample of the fluid I was leaking and was going to send it down to the lab, just to verify it was amniotic fluid.

6:30 am -
 She checked my cervix (not very fun) and said I was dilated to a 1 and 50% effaced. Water was still gushing out at this point and she said she wasn't going to even bother sending my sample to the lab because it was obvious that my water had broken. (Also she mentioned that my cervix was still way back and that baby's head was low and in the way - one reason it wasn't too fun for me.)

After hooking me up to the monitors she mentioned I was having some small contractions and asked if I could feel them. I said no.

Kyle and I just hung out for the next couple of hours. We watched a couple informational movies that the hospital wants you to watch before you take your baby home. I also ordered up some breakfast from room service. The whole time we were hanging out Kyle was really sweet, rubbing my back and holding my hand. He also texted our family members to let them know what was going on. He ran to his work for about a half hour (it's next to the hospital) to finish somethings really quick and to do a couple of things on the computer. At one point I got out of bed and Kyle and I started walking around L&D, as an attempt to really start contractions coming and to avoid having any Pitocin. However, after just one lap, Shannon called me back into my room and said that baby wasn't really tolerating that well and that she would feel better if I stayed in bed for a while.

9:30 am -
I started feeling contractions, although they were still just small ones. Shannon told us that she was concerned about baby's heart rate. It wasn't too alarming, but she was monitoring it closely. She also mentioned that my OB should be in soon to check in on me and baby.

10:15 am -
My OB showed up - it was her day off and she came after doing a workout with her personal trainer. I was grateful she came to check on me, even though she could have turned my care over to the on-call doctor. She echoed what Shannon had said, and then said she wanted to insert internal monitors so she could get a better read on baby. It took a few minutes to get that done. She said it was one of the hardest placements she'd done in a while (probably because of what Shannon had said earlier about my cervix). She also said I was probably about 75% effaced now, but still at a 1. Once the monitors were placed Dr. McCrummen said she was going to hang out for a while and watch mine and baby's stats. She also mentioned that a c-section might be the best bet, but again, she'd monitor for a while to see how baby did, and then she'd come back in and go over options.

My contractions started getting a little stronger at this point and I could tell when I was having them. But they still weren't terrible.

The anesthesiologist, Rich, also came in during this time, to discuss options with me, and go over risks of each, like they have to do. He was a super nice guy, probably in his 50's or so.

11:00 (ish) am -
Dr. McCrummen came back in and said that although baby wasn't doing terribly, he still wasn't doing great, either. Again she mentioned that she thought that a c-section would be the best option at this time. I was still only having small contractions, and so they weren't helping my cervix to open and progress at all. At this time they would have probably started giving me some Pitocin, but since baby wasn't doing well with even these small contractions, Dr. McCrummen didn't think that would be a good idea because that would bring on stronger contractions (the point, obviously) and baby would probably go downhill relatively quickly. So - opting for a c-section right now would be the best bet. We could do it under controlled circumstances, instead of me trying to labor and then baby really going into distress and having to have an emergency c-section.
Kyle and I agreed, and Dr. McCrummen went to get changed.

They left Kyle and I alone for a few minutes, and I will admit I cried a little. It was just a little overwhelming. First my water had broken at only 37 week, so I wasn't really mentally prepared to have a baby yet anyway, and then after being at the hospital only 5 hours, here we were, deciding to have a c-section. And I hadn't really even experienced labor. (I didn't really have a birth plan, I had talked to Dr. McCrummen and told her I was pretty open about whatever needed to happen, in order to keep baby and I safe. That being said though, Kyle and I were prepared to labor at home for a while, and not come in until my contractions were strong, lasting at least 1 minute for one 1 hour, and 5 minutes apart. So again, it was a shock, even though I was pretty laid back about the birth anyway.) But we knew that this was the best option for both baby and me. I just needed to get out a little emotion.

The next few minutes were a blur of nurses. About 3 or 4 came in, along with my nurse Shannon. They started wiping down my whole body with anti bacterial wipes, one shaved the area where the incision would be, one put on some TED hose on my legs to prevent blood clots, one made sure my IV bag was full, one handed me a hair cap thing, etc. Then they walked me into the OR. Kyle stayed behind putting on his OR gear, and waiting until they were ready for him to come in.

Being in the OR was kind of a blur and a little nerve-wracking. Everyone was wearing the paper gowns and masks, and it was freezing. They had me sit on the operating table, and hooked me up to some monitors. Rich came in and started to administer the spinal block. They gave me a pillow to hold onto, told me to arch my back, and Shannon kind of held me by the arms/shoulders. My contractions had started to get stronger as well, so that was not pleasant. Rich drew on my back for a minute and then he administered the numbing medication, which was a short,  brief, stinging pain. Then he administered the spinal block. It wasn't necessarily painful, but it was a lot of pressure - it was like when you get your gums numbed at the dentist in preparation to get your cavities filled - it was pretty uncomfortable.
The spinal block took effect in less than a minute. Shannon and another couple of nurses helped move me around on the table, put my legs up, and laid me back. Shannon inserted a catheter. Rich hung up a curtain so I couldn't see below my chest. He put on oxygen, and put a thermometer type thing on my forehead. He also strapped my arms down by the wrists - so they were straight out from my side. He then covered me with a blow up blanket heater thing. He was so nice the entire time, making sure I was comfortable and doing ok, and he was always explaining to me what he was doing and why.
I couldn't stop shaking. I think both from the cold of the OR and also from the anesthesia.
After I was all situated Dr. McCrummen came in along with Dr. Woods, the OB who was on call. Shannon and who I assumed was a type of scrub nurse did a count of medical supplies and also named all who were in the room. There were the 2 OB's, Shannon, Rich, another nurse or two, and a pediatrician from the nursery in case Abe had a few troubles, since he was a little early. They might have been a couple others, I can't remember.
Then they brought Kyle in. He sat kind of up by my head and left shoulder. I was so glad to see him. They started the operation. I couldn't feel any pain, just some tugging and pulling. At one point I felt some non-painful pressure up by my rib cage, and the next thing I knew, baby was crying!
Someone said, "what are we saying, 12:05?" And Dr. McCrummen said, "12:04."
(Side note: it was weird being in the OR with the hospital employees - this was just another work day to them - they were talking about their pets and joking around with each other, etc. while here we were about to have a baby!)

Kyle went over to where they wiped him off, and he was able to cut the cord. They weighed him, then wrapped him up and gave him to Kyle. Kyle brought him over to me and I got to look at my baby's sweet, squishy face. Rich unstrapped my right arm so I could reach over and touch him.
Dr. McCrummen stitched me up very quickly, and before I knew it, they wheeled me to the recovery area of the hospital. I can't remember her name, but one of the baby nurses, who was in the OR with me, brought the baby to me.

(At this time we still hadn't decided on his name. Well, we had one in mind, but I wanted to really be able to see his face better before I made the final decision. Kyle was basically leaving the decision up to me.)

My nurse there was Connie, I think. She monitored me, and fed me some ice chips. She tilted my bed up a bit, and kept checking to see if my spinal block was wearing off by putting a cold wipe on different areas of my body, and by asking me to try to move my feet, legs, and toes. It was the most bizarre feeling to try to move my toes and not see them moving. SO weird. The baby nurse gave Abe his Vitamin K and Hep-B shots, and I think pricked his heel (although that might have happened after). I was still shaking, and my nose was so itchy (both from the anesthesia). They put Abe on my chest and we had skin to skin time and attempted nursing for the first time. After a while the nurse took Abe to the postpartum unit to wash him. I stayed in recovery for about a half hour more.

2:00 pm -
They wheeled me to my postpartum room. I was able to wiggle my toes a bit, but still couldn't really move. Kyle had been waiting for me, and had been able to be there when they washed Abe.
(FYI, they had this cool inflatable mattress type thing which they had been using to get me onto different beds since I couldn't move at all.)

So there we were, Kyle, Abe and I in the room we'd live in for the next couple of days.
I was able to eat dinner Wednesday night - so I am lucky I didn't have to go too long without food.

The rest of the time we were there (until Friday afternoon) was a blur of snuggles, catnapping, learning to breast-feed, pain meds, getting my vitals and bleeding checked, nurses feeling around my belly to make sure my uterus was shrinking, getting Abe's vitals checked, and slowly regaining my feeling and starting to walk around a little bit. We had some great nurses, and I really enjoyed my time at the hospital (as much as you can enjoy it, anyway).

Although things didn't go as expected, we are so grateful he is here, and that we are both healthy! We love our little Abe, and are so blessed to have him in our home.




(I'll probably do a follow up post a little later, about my thoughts and feelings on having a c-section, and having him come early! And I'll also do a post about postpartum recovery from a c-section.)

1 Week

Birth story is still in the works - I'm writing a document with everything in it, and then hopefully will downsize it for the blog. It's taking a long time though, especially between naps and eating and snuggling the babe.

 At one week baby Abe:

- likes sleeping in momma's arms the most

- makes the best faces

- is so snuggly

- likes hearing daddy read to him

- still has adorable peach fuzz sideburns

- is doing pretty good when it comes to sleeping

- is just adorable
- makes pretty great grunting and snorting sounds
- was so good on his first outing
(we went to the doctor's and a couple more quick errands (Abe and I stayed in the car) and he hardly made a peep the entire time. he was also awake most of the time, just so content to be in his carseat.)

We love him so much. 

As cliche as it sounds, this has been the fastest week of our lives! Tomorrow is the last day of Kyle's paternity leave, and Abe and I will be sad for him to go back to work. But, tomorrow my mom and sister fly out for a week, so that will be fun! Looking forward to seeing them and having them be able to meet Abe.